Take stock and be proud

As we approach the last few weeks of the year, don't rush the end.  There is so much I believe that we need to leave this year with that I don't want you to miss it.

You have been challenged with so many unknowns.  You have faced situations that you could not control and you like most of us have been stripped of the norms of life.

However I believe and have experienced something within this year that I have never experienced knowingly before.  For the first time in my 40 (now) years of life finally have come to understanding what I actually want and have started moving from un-comfortability to pushing myself in areas I have never been in before.

I'm telling you God's honest truth, that the things I'm doing today I wouldn't have done before as I was always thinking about other people and not showing my life as I didn't want to outshine anyone or "show off".    So many bad conditionings in my thought pattern that I have worked on and I'm sure you can also attest to.

Listen in as I ask you to really take stock of today.. Where are you today?  How are you presenting yourself today? What do you want from your now to project into your tomorrows?

Be blessed and be proud you have made it thus far.

Look forward to connecting with you and hope you can follow me on my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/selinacdavis/

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Hey it's your girl, Selina Davis hosted of Butt-Naked wisdom coming to you with a wonderful episode. And I really want us to look at ways in which we can reflect on the year, we are now approaching a few weeks before the year end. And there is so much that has happened in this particular year. And I just want you to kind of quiet the noise of the you know, what's going on in the news, what's going on with COVID-19? And just really reflect on yourself and where you are today. How has 2020 done for you? What has it done for you? How have you maneuver through this year? How have you overcome the things that you have been faced daily, weekly, monthly? What are the things that you have kind of count to for 2020, like when you really look at it, what has this year done for you in your personal in your mindset, in, you know, your finances, there's so many different things that have been affected in this year. But I really want us to look at how we can reflect on a positive of what this year and I want to just give you an example. I know for me 2020 has presented so many challenges, I have changed my position from going from corporate to entrepreneurial, my kids have moved from being at school to being at home, I have been having to maneuver financially adapting and going through the ups and downs and challenges of not having and having and not having. So there have been some obstacles, you know, when it comes to just daily bills, and all that kind of good stuff. And another thing you know, for me, I've just turned 40 years old. So I have, you know, hit a milestone in my life. And it's a really beautiful place to be sorry, it's a wonderful place that I've never really experienced before. To be completely honest, I've never been in this space where I am so aware of who I am as a human being and where I want to go. I am so aware of what I don't want for my life, I'm so aware of what I want for my life. I know what it's going to take for me to get to where I need to be next. Now, I don't know that every single step but what I do know is I need to work on myself daily, I need to invest in me, I need to look at the things that are gonna is gonna grow my mindset, the way that I think it has allowed me to be still really be still in the situation that we are faced all the time. You know, when you are in a position in your life where you don't have control and there are things going on around you that you really don't know the truth about. We don't know what's really going on when it comes to COVID-19 we don't know the facts. We don't know the figures, we don't know, a lot of things but we are being important to and spoken over and declared on to so many different lockdowns and you know, the rates are going up, the rates are going down. It's okay for kids to go to school. It's not okay for them. It's not okay for some people to work. So a lot of conflicting information, a lot going on in society right now politically. And just generally for our own personal lives. Now, I'm assuming you're tapping into thing that may be going on in your own personal home relationship wise, friendship wise, you know, your family, but I really just want you to take stock of where you are right now. Like literally today. What is going on in your mind? How do you feel about yourself in this very moment right now? I want you to take a few minutes and just close your eyes and think and just ask yourself a very simple question. Who am I today? And am I pleased with who I am today? What are other things that I need to do? All you need to do in your life today? That will change your tomorrow? We are constantly always looking for what's next. Tomorrow is gonna come the next week gonna come but we never look in our moment right now. We don't ever reflect on what is going on in our mindset in this space right now. I know for me, I have stepped into so many arenas of unknown in these last few weeks, and even last couple of months. So much unknown, going against what is familiar going against what is comfortable and putting myself out. For the first time. I'm not thinking about what people are thinking what they're saying and how they perceive me what their perceptions are of me how they feel about who I am. I'm doing Selena. And what that means is I'm going to be who I am, I'm not going to be affected by other people's mindsets, other people's perceptions, other people's ideals, I'm not going to allow those things to control my life anymore. And it's been like that for a number of years where I was constantly thinking about what other people were thinking of me. I didn't want them to, I don't want to do things before they were doing things. I just need to move. And what I was doing to myself was stagnating myself, I wasn't growing as a human being, I will just been still, my life was moving forward, things were happening for me. But I wasn't showing the thing that I was doing. I wasn't putting it out there. Because I didn't want to show boast myself or put myself out there or, you know, I'm not wanting to just throw all of what who I am or what I do out to the world. But what I have realized this year is I need to be me, for me to be happy. I need to do me. I need to know what I want for my life. And I want you to also know what you want for your life. Where do you want to be tomorrow? Because what you are going to be tomorrow will be dependent on what you do today. Others conversations that you have with yourself healthy conversations. Are you speaking truth? Or are you living the lies of conversations that you have spoken to yourself over and over and over again? What is stopping you from fulfilling your life's dreams and hopes? what purpose do you have on this earth? You are here for a reason I'm here for a reason. We're all here for a reason. Now that reason can be small, it can be big, who knows and who cares at this point, all I'm concerned about is figuring out, am I happy with who I am today. And do I know where I want to go tomorrow. And if I don't know where I want to go tomorrow, I need to invest in making sure I give myself that opportunity to start looking into the thing that I want for my life. We may have you may have children like myself, and you want them to be the best versions of who they should be. But they are a reflection in somewhat of who we are as human beings as we have been of our parents. So really look at where you are today. And I'm speaking to you in this time right now. Because I just believe that there is so much to have received in this year. And I don't want us to miss it. I don't want you to leave 2020 and rush 2020 out and not fully have grasped what 2020 has meant for you and what it was meant to give you. And like I said, if you have not done this before, I want you to take some time to really ponder on what 2020 means to you, and what it has given to you. As I said, we've all been through a lot. I've been through so many things I've not had electricity, I've not had money at times, I have been not been able to stay in my home, I have been unsure whether I'm even going to be able to pay my rent on time, I have been learning about who I am as a human being, I am learning to love myself. I am learning to embrace who I am. And to not think about other people. I am putting myself out there even launching this podcast is me putting myself out there. I'm doing a lot of different things. I've just started doing Jamaican rum cakes. I'm almost there in publishing a book, there is so many things that I'm doing out of my uncomfortability I'm now trying to make those things normal for my life because I know that there were inside of me. And I just needed to give myself that opportunity to do it. And I want the same for you. It could mean so many things for you in your life. And I'm saying so many things because there are so many things that you want to do. It could be you wanting to start looking after kids. So that means you need to start doing the courses that are needed. And online courses are available. It could mean you mean that you want to get promoted at your job and you just need to position yourself correctly. It could mean that you want to go off and start singing and you've held yourself back because of insecurities, whatever that thing looks like for you. Whatever you look like to you. I want you to take the time to start painting in that picture, and writing the chapter in your book. Now, I've probably heard this so many times, I'm a big believer of writing things down. I have written so many things down this year more than I've ever written in my whole entire life, I want to say, but what I will say to you is this, be honest with yourself, be true to yourself, know who you want to be. Don't blame anybody else. You're only here because you have made yourself be here right now. And I've put myself in this situation right now, I may not be happy with every element that's going on my life, I may not be satisfied with a lot of elements that are going on in my life right now. But I know that I'm content in my skin that I think I want to change by No, I need to do the things in order for the things to change. And I can't expect other people to change, I have to change myself. And I have to make sure that I'm living my truth, and living to be the best person that I want to be the best human being the best person that loves on my brothers and sisters, the best person that thinks about other people, the best person that thinks about herself, I want to be that person. So I hope that this encourages you to really look and take some time to yourself and for yourself before the year ends. And again, like I said, Don't rush the year, there is still more time to be able to make changes and to make plans for the year. And a lot of people obviously start the year with new resolution. I for one started my year to be completely honest, a cop about a month ago, to be honest, I said, I'm filing my new year right now, I'm making the decision that I want to make to make sure that I've progressed the way that I want to progress in my life. And it's not going to be on the wave of a new year, but rather on a wave of me making the decision from my own personal life. So I just encourage you, I hope that this has touched you and blessed you and in some way impacted you to really make some effective change in your life. So that you can really look at ways that you can become who you want to be and not hold back and not live a life with any sort of regret at all. And I think life is too short. We have seen this through this year, the fact that so many people unfortunately have passed away all over the world. But one thing remains is that every day is a blessing that we have been given every hour, every second is a gift that we have all been presented with. And in order for us to really take hold of this life, we sometimes need to be stripped away from everything that is noise around about us and everything that just consumed our lives and busies our lives up in order for us to really see where life is and what life is all about. So I'm hoping that this year has really helped you identify who you are. And if it has shown you thing that you're not too happy about that's even better, because it only allows you to know that you can make change and that life can definitely improve moving forward. So God bless you, I definitely will continue to, you know, speak words that I feel in my heart that comes from my heart to you. And I swear I believe that these podcasts is going to be about it's going to be about touching real life situations and examples moving forward in our lives so that we can obviously become much better human being and better people to those around us. So God bless you. Speak to you soon. And I look forward to speaking to you on our next episode.