Be Bold: Who are you?

Mirror Mirror on the wall who am I?

Created within our minds is this fictional person to whom we believe we should be and are not right now.  However about removing those pictures, ideals, experiences and history and determine today who you want to see in that mirror.

I know this was hard for me but when I  wrote on my mirror "I'm Enough" that's whenever thing changed and I was now living for me and not through the lens of others.

Listen in as we have a chat about some actionable steps.

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Transcript

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Hey, it's your girl, Selina Davis host of Butt-Naked Wisdom, and we are on a roll for 2021. And we are going to continue our series of being bold. So who are you? Who are you? When you look in the mirror? Who were you? What do you see when you see in the mirror what and who is this person that you look at, it's very hard to look at yourself in the mirror. I know from personal experience, because it brings a lot of memories, it brings a lot of experiences to your mindset, it brings a lot of, you know, potential weaknesses or areas in which which you wish you could improve on. But I think where we are always, you know, hell bent in not looking at who we are, is because we're afraid of what we would be able to do to make those changes. And, you know, sometimes when I think of myself, I've always been a person that has been very much considerate of other people and always put other people first. And I believe through our discussions in the past year that you've even, you've come to understand that I've learned to understand who I am number one, but also accept me for me, you know, accepting me for me means that I don't need to please other people, I don't need to live in the lenses of anybody else. I don't need to do things that are against to I am as a human being, I don't need to apologize for my standards, I don't need to apologize for wanting a better life, or one in better things for myself, I don't have to apologize for those things anymore, or even not even want them for myself, it's okay to want these things. It's okay to want these standards, it's okay to want these experiences. Even if it doesn't exist in my present moment, right now, it is okay for me to have the desires to want them. So who am I, I am someone who I know when I put my mind to things, it produces fruits, I know that I'm someone who is loving and kind I know that I always do think about other people, I know that I am a cheerleader for many people around me, I know that I will be successful in my life, because I have a determination of that I know that I am a mother and I am learning to parent my children in the best way that I can see fit, and educate myself to do better as I learn and grow. And these are just some of the things that I've had to really look at myself and actually speak, you know, speak these great things into my life, because I for a long time, you know, felt guilty for a long time didn't want to even acknowledge me as a human being on this earth, and just really push the onus on other people because I would always turn against myself, you know, people use my kindness for weakness, people manipulated people took advantage of me, and I never really wanted to shine or showcase the things that I was doing and achieving. And I had to learn that I'm only holding myself back, I'm also holding my children back by not allowing them to be their best version, because I'm not being a demonstration of what I want them to be. And also for those around me, you know, I don't ever want to be two people, I want to be the same person. And I believe I've always been the same person. But you know, I'm in a social media world, things can be perceived in such a different way to what the reality is that you're living in. And I've learned to just live in my reality to be completely honest. And that's who I am. That is me, I have to live me and I have to focus on me. And I have to focus on the things that, you know, will help me to become a better person to help me to succeed, help me to grow, change and learn so that I can be intentional with everything that I'm doing. So I want to ask you some questions. And I just hope that you can answer these, you know, as honestly as you can. So when you look at yourself today, what do you see? When you look at yourself today? What do you see? And I said I want you to answer that very, very honestly, if you have to write this down and answer these questions separately, after this podcast definitely do that. The second question is, if your situation today doesn't change, will you be happy in five or 10 years living in the same situation you're in today? So if your life doesn't change in any way, will you be happy? Looking at your life being the same in five to 10 years? Now, when you look at yourself, I want you to speak three things that make you feel good. Speak three thing that make you feel good about who you are. today. I'm not talking about who you want to become. I'm not talking about the past you I'm talking about the present Aren't you when you look at yourself, write three things that will make you feel happy about who you are. And number four, what is one thing you can do today, right now after this exercise to make an effective change for tomorrow, and I mean, it doesn't have to be huge. But one thing was that one thing that you can do today, that will help you in your tomorrow. And I hope that you can kind of do this daily so that you can make progressive steps daily towards who you see as you look in the mirror and who you see as you want to start growing into whatever that vision is for your life. And I think we definitely need to have a vision of who we want to be, e definitely should see ours lves the way we want to see ours lves if you have to do a visi n board of who you believe you' e supposed to be and look like and feel and what makes you happ. Definitely do that. Beca se I think everything in life is definitely about being inte tional. We have to be inte tional about everything that we're doing. It's like time is m ving time is not waiting. And have come to realize that an h ur missed is an opportunity for e to have done something diff rent and not to feel guilty abou wasting time or having rela ation time. But that time is a so intentional is not a wast d hour or wasted five hour, it's been intentional, rela ing, and switching off and doin nothing or whatever that may ook like going to the gym or g ing for a walk or you know, mayb sleeping in an hour beca se you are always waking up extr mely early. Whatever that may ook like for you don't feel guil y about it. Just go ahead and et those things become your real ty. So that you can be inte tional about who you want to b moving forward. So I hope that this helps you I really hope that you do these acti ities and you know, write them down for yourselves. I'm a stro g believer of writing thin s down because I think when you ee things on paper, and it come out of your mind and on on a sh et of paper, it really just beco es more real for you and your life and it becomes acti nable steps for for where you ant to go. So I hope that this helped you. I hope that you know these things will encourage you o just make progressive step in your life to becoming bold r, and becoming the best vers on of who you are. God bles you speak to you soon. And look forward to speaking to you at t e next episode.