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Finding time for you: Get rid of the guilt
New Series: Finding time for you
Guilt can be a huge burden on our lives but what we want to do is find out why we feel that guilt and deal with it.
No, I'm not talking about the type of guilt when you have committed a crime or done an injustice to someone else. I'm referring to the type of emotional guilt that plagues us when we don't feel we can or are good enough to take time for ourselves.
Listen in as we discuss this more and some actions we can take to overcome this.
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Hey, It's your girl, Selina Davis host of Butt-Naked wisdom coming to you with another episode. And today we are going to continue on are finding time for you series and we are going to be discussing, get rid of that guilt, get rid of that guilt guys, you know what is guilt guilt is feeling as if you don't potentially deserve a situation or circumstance or time for yourself. And I'm telling you to get rid of it, we all deserve it, we all deserve to spend time for ourselves. And I can only speak from a mother standpoint, I'm a mom. And you know, we have this mother guilt, this thing that we feel extremely guilty about when we are doing something for ourselves, or even taking time to spend for ourselves. And I've come to believe and understand that I can only be the best for my children. If I myself am happy, you know, it's a lie when we, you know, keep going on and on and on and on and never really reflect on ourselves or spend time for ourselves or do anything for ourselves. And we feel this guilt, even when it comes to buying things. And this may not apply to everybody, people literally will buy whatever they want and do the thing that they want to do for. But I believe for a large portion of mothers who I think now is kind of changing where we are looking at ways that we don't you know that we can, you know, spend time for ourselves or do things for ourselves that this, you know, this feeling of guilt is slowly removing itself. And I made a lot of changes in my life last year when it came to leaving my corporate job to be an entrepreneur again. And, you know, it was because I felt guilty for not being at home with my kids or spending the time that was needed, personally for myself. And I needed to make those decisions. So, you know, we do have a life where we do feel guilty. And you know, it could be people making us feel guilty, or it could be partners making us feel guilty. You know, unfortunately, some employers are not no compassion, and they don't even understand what it means to really run a family. So therefore when you are working, or you need to leave, because your child has something or you just have another obligation that you need to get to. And life is not constantly about work, they make you feel guilty at work. So it's different, you know, different scenarios, different situations that can bring on this skill, and I just come in today to let you know, get rid of it. You know, it doesn't do anything for us, what will happen is that we will continue moaning and groaning and complaining about where we are in life. Because we are allowing those things in situations to constantly control us can constantly impact our person, you know, bring on stress and make us feel as if we are not worthy of you know, doing something for ourselves. So I'm just coming on with a quick message to say get rid of the guilt. If you feel guilty right now, really look at why you feel guilty? Is it because somebody else is making you feel guilty? Is it because you feel guilty with you know, you know, spending time away from your children? But let me just give you this question. Look at your 24 hours, how much of your time do you dedicate to others to things to situation? And how much time do you actually dedicate to yourself? Now, you're probably going to tell me 5% of the time, you'd probably what you potentially may dedicate yourself and 95% of the time you dedicate to other people. Therefore I'm telling you to get rid of that guilt. If it was the other way around. And you said to me 95% of the time I spend on myself and I only give myself to others 5% of the time, I will tell you to stop being stop being selfish and stop being selfless. But in this instance, I'm telling you to be self selfish. Be spend time for yourself, be with yourself, do things for yourself, and don't feel guilty sound come in to let you know to remove the guilt. Stop being you know, having this burden on your life. I'm hoping that this shakes that burden, you know, listen to some music, shake it off, get rid of it. And just be intentional that you are worthy of you. And you deserve to be who you are. And the best version of who you are, is spending time with you loving on you, dedicating time for you, so that others around you can get the best of who you are. So I hope that this has helped you. I hope that this speaks to you in some way somehow and that it makes some some change for you today, tomorrow and in the future. So God bless you look forward to speaking to you on our next episode as we become better versions of ourselves for other people as well as ourselves. God bless you and speak to you soon.