Imposer Syndrome versus Faith

Do you know if you have Imposer Syndrome?  Has it been effecting your life and you dont even know it.  Do you have Faith but Imposer Syndrome is overwhelming you?

I don't know about you but understanding this has really opened my eyes to have a better understanding about how I process information and actually allow things to control me whether knowingly or unknowingly.    This episode gives you a great comparison as believers we must be certain where we are placing our thoughts to ensure we are living in faith and not by our insecurities.

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Its Selina the host of Butt Naked wisdom. If this is your first time coming to my podcast, welcome, I'm so happy to have you here. Just a little bit about myself. I am a mother of five amazing children, a wife, an entrepreneur, a mentor and an author. Yes, life has done life on me. And I birthed out a book. And the book itself is called what's stopping you? Make that hard decision today! And the reason why I wrote that book, like many of us, we go through so much in life, and we find at points in our lives that we are stuck, stuck in hurdles of the same old things or cycles of the same things never changing. And what I found is there are certain questions that we tend not to ask ourselves in order for us to move forward. So this book is really about helping you with some of those direct questions, and providing practical, accountable steps for you to move forward. So this book is available on Amazon right now. ebook version, or as a paperback. The link is down below in the description. I would love for you to grab a copy and look forward to speaking to you on the episode coming up. Hey, It's your girl Selina Davis host of Butt-Naked Wisdom, we are back with another episode. And I am refreshed and just feeling amazing. And I hope you guys are too. So today we will be talking about Imposter Syndrome versus Faith. Now I've been looking at this, we see this a lot, whether you're reading articles, or you are looking at other podcasts or just conversations in general. And I've never really looked into this area personally really in detail before. But as a child of faith, I also wanted to kind of bring some comparison into how we could potentially work on this part of who we are. And if it's affecting your life, I hope that this episode helps you in some way. So let's first just really go to what really what is the definition of imposter syndrome. So Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which and individual doubts their skills, talent and accomplishment and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud. Now, the signs of someone that potentially has imposter syndrome could be things like self doubt, be writing your performance over achieving, sabotaging your own success, things like setting yourself up for really challenging goals. There's also things like in terms of different types of people, or classes or characteristics in which you may sit in terms of where the imposter syndrome is for you. And you have something called the perfectionist unless they're never satisfied. And they always feel that their work could be better, fixated on the flaws and mistakes rather than focused on the strengths. And then you have something called the superhero. And that's due to the inadequacies, they tend to push themselves into working as hard as possible, then you have something called the expert there. And they underwrite their own expertise, and tend to try and always keep learning because they're just never satisfied with their sort of own intelligence or just in the knowledge that they have. So they feel like they always have to keep constantly constantly learning, then you have something which is sort of like the natural genius, always setting extremely high goals for themselves, but fail at the first try. And they really kind of fall low when they don't hit their goals first or initially. And then you have those soloists to sort of individual that don't potentially want to have help or arts for how, because it makes them feel as if they're weak, or they're unable to do it. So they tend to try and do everything for themselves. And it's really, really interesting, this particular topic, because I think it's really hit. So many of us whether we understand it as being an imposter syndrome or not. And it's affected me in in different ways in my lives. And I will probably say to you that at some point in different perspectives, so I think it really depends on what the situation and it could be sort of in my relationship or it could be work related, or with friendships or just experiences different parts of this psychological pattern happens to work. So we kind of reclues into, you know, one of the kind of types and definitely I would say the perfectionist is somebody that is something that I've definitely suffered with in part, the soloist as well, because I also don't feel like I want to help or ask for help. Because I'm always, always feel like people don't want to help or like I'm begging you to help. So I'd rather not ask for that help. And I'm always wanting to learn, you know, in that respect, but I think I'm kind of between perfectionist and soloist, but as a child of God, and as somebody that does have faith, I think it's really important that we kind of place a perspective on who we are, as believers. And one of the known areas of Scripture is Hebrews 11. Now this may be something that you fully know and are aware of, but I just want to read it to you. So this is

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1-3. Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen, for by it, the outers, obtain the good testimony, by faith, we are destined, we are we sorry, we understand the world were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible. And I bring that comparison, because when you think about imposter syndrome, it kind of always makes you feel as if you're a fraud, going back to the definition, making you feel as if you are not somebody you are and you kind of are trying to present something that you're not. Whereas when you look at faith, faith has actually got nothing to do with whether I'm good enough, whether I feel like I have the capable skills or not. Whether I feel like you believe in whether I have the skills or not. Faith is believing and having hope, in something that we can't see. And most of the time, we garner a lot of who we are from really putting ourselves out there. And that confidence can because we believe that God is with us, and he's leading and directing our path. So we have this level of faith in us to believe which therefore means that the imposter syndrome or part of us that feels that we may be a fraud, or we shouldn't be in particular situations or purposes, because there's too much of our own consciousness involved and we want to be present, or we want people to see us now favor not really about us, because we are believing in something that doesn't, that we can't touch is not tangible, and for the most part, is not visible to mankind or even ourselves. So putting those kind of two into perspective, we really have to kind of be very mindful of where our mindset is and how we cope in those situations where these symptoms or these, this imposter syndrome, tries to kind of take over our mindset and one of the things it does do it tries to hold us back and we have to refuse to allow those that mindset to hold us back from being who we are. Because we need to push through it. A lot of it is fear and a lot of it is insecurity. A lot of it is trying to not feel as if you are going to be rejected from things that potentially have rejected you in the past that double mindedness you know, that feeling of you know, fighting your feelings. So these are things that we need to stop doing. We need to stop fighting what that feeling is and actually dealing with it. You know, the Bible talks about being a double minded man and not being able to receive thing. You know, divert double mindedness is like the wind that flows to and fro and you don't know where it's gonna go. And you can't stand in God with out faith. And you can't stand in God believing and not believing you have to have that strength of belief in you in the foundation of who you are. You also need to monitor social media and, you know, social media can definitely create these imposter syndrome scenarios. Because we're constantly comparing ourselves. We're constantly looking at how other people are doing things. We are always looking at, you know, what's more, and not having enough and there's constant pumping of information and knowledge and you're not where you're supposed to be because x is here, and this person knows this. And you potentially may not know this, I believe we all have a purpose and we all have our position to play in this world. So regardless of where somebody else is, that should not be your concern. Ultimately, the race that you are on your own personal journey. I can't live nor can you live somebody else's life, nor can you live the journey or somebody Yours. So therefore when we start looking at other people and comparing our lives with other people, we are really setting ourselves up for failure for her for disappointment, and insecurities was 100% sinking. And the more we see and pump ourselves with what is being painted on social media, as this is what life should be. And these are the things that you should have by xx year of your life and all this kind of stuff is the more, you are definitely going to fall in one of those categories or types of symptoms of being, you know, feeling that imposter syndrome. So I really want you to kind of analyze yourself, and really be true to yourself, don't fight how you're feeling, but kind of get to the root of it, it's very, very important that you kind of understand where your mind is taking you and grab a hold of those thoughts. And put those thoughts into perspective on where you are personally in your life, and removing what are distractions and things outward. And really bring them into the center of who you are, what is your wife or your life, and this thing can affect every part of your life. So don't think it's just a work thing, or you know, it's a definitely a relationship thing. It literally can impose itself on various elements of your life. So it's very, very important that you become very self aware of the way in which your mind thinks in various different situation. Because as I said, those different types can can come up in different parts, you could feel like you are this superhero where you are constantly having to work, work, work and hot work as hard as possible, or you are an expert, and you are, you know, you undermine or underrate your expertise. And you constantly need to keep learning. So you're constantly buying new courses, or subscribing to this course and filling yourself with this information. And this information is never going to be enough or you're that perfectionist that you know, you are never satisfied with your quality of work because you're always focusing on the flaws or the weaknesses or the mistakes that you're making. And that my friend is definitely going to set you up for failure is going to set you up in procrastination, for sure. And it's definitely not going to allow you to move forward in the essence of who you are. Because this journey is your journey, this journey is your life, nobody else is to pave the path for you. And if we believe that we all have a relationship with God, then we all have this individual walk with God and He will lead us where he wants us to be in the time and in the place in which we need to be. So it's really, really important that you capture your mind in this area and figure out how am I walking in phase 4am I being led by this, this emotion or these feelings or these thoughts that are capturing me and not allowing me to be the best version of who I am. So I really hope that this has helped you, I hope that you gain a little bit more insight into the imposter syndrome and you can kind of obviously do a bit more research into the area. And if you do feel like you are struggling in this area, definitely reach out to sort of counselors or coaches that kind of specialize in being able to help you kind of grapple, grapple or understand the way that your mind is thinking understand the why behind it. You know, it tends to come from somewhere. So always looking at the root cause of the situation and that emotion and a feeling and then kind of push forward and stand in faith 100% leaning onto God and being directed by him. So I hope that this has helped you. God bless you look forward to speaking to you on our next episode and I am out